What Happened to an Eye for an Eye??? [Reposted from 6/07]

So, I'm sitting watching this show. The premise of the show is "Ex-Wives that help other scorned or deserted partners express their feelings and move on". For some, where I'm going with this is obvious, for the rest of you, just stay tuned... I’m watching this with a female so naturally the "battle of the sexes" is amiss in the air. A part of me thinks that people make shoes like this JUST to raise the divorce rate a scoch more. Because as most men know... there is just something about a women that will NOT let her understand things that make logical sense if her emotions have already decided that she disagrees. However, I digress. As we are watching this show the topic of "moving on" comes up. The "life coach" (another BS way that rich women spend their time… giving themselves jobs and charging outrageous amounts of money to do it. We have life coaches in the Black Community too, we call them Big Momma) surprises one of these "scorned" women by taking her to some town where she has somehow come across this woman’s ex-husband’s classic car that is in mint condition. Long story short the life coach asks, for the benefit of the audience, what the car means to her? She says that throughout the relationship he treated the car better than he treated her. *Side note* - [that's something I hear often. Women claim to be second to objects, just to throw this out there and ladies I'm NOT being an ass, just trying to offer a possible answer. But maybe it's because the object is an outlet or a diversion from stress often caused by ones significant other, the time spent with this object can be controlled by you. If he has less reason to need "relief" from your relationship he will spend less time with "it" and more with you.... just at though]. So back to this car... THEY THROW IT OUT OF A PLANE!!! I'll say that again. He hurt her feelings so she threw his CAR out of a PLANE!!! Furthermore it was promoted and condoned as a justified act of "expression" and a sign of "moving on". I contend that a sign of moving on is MOVING THE HELL ON not throwing a mans car out of a plane! In addition, I'm sure you all know what happened next with the woman I’m sitting next to. Naturally, after seeing this I'm furious! Exclaiming on the sofa as we sit and watch this bullshit, "BULLSHIT!" which makes her say, "you'd never understand." I disagree. I think I do understand. I understand completely well. I understand that it's ok for a woman to Blow up a man's CAR and not have any consequences for it. To be completely free of any consequences for her actions because her feelings are hurt. I understand that in countless movies from the "waiting to exhale and blow a brothas car up" genera condone and PROMOTE these acts of violence, vandalism, harassment, extortion, and HIPOCRACY and hide it behind the vale of reciprocity! So the argument began. Her's was that the woman on this show was hurt, she was emotionally torn down, she was just a withered frail version of the woman she used to be. My argument is that if she stayed that long to allow herself to become this who's fault is that really. As an adult if you are in a relationship like this LEAVE. If you choose not to and become whatever it is you become, you can only be so mad at the other person. However under any situation your feeling do not equal the right to damage ANYONES property if they have done nothing to yours. But back to the issue of this mans CAR. This was a CLASSIC mint condition car worth, I'm sure, $100,000+. I can't believe that she or anyone else would sit there and tell me that because this woman’s FEELINGS were hurt that gives her the right to throw 100,000 dollars of this guy’s money OUT OF A FUCKING PLAN! I pose this one question. If that had been a man...? Enough said. I would like every man who ever finds himself in this type of argument, when you find yourself falling victim to the oh-so-popular feminine method of what I like to call "Logic-Last" arguing where what makes SENSE doesn't matter, to just stop, take a deep breath and pose this question "What if it had been a man..." and then walk away. No, this will NOT help you win but it will plant the seed. As we all know you will NEVER win with your significant other. But when she walks away, she will think about it. "He cheated on me, so I keyed his car", when she makes that argument for why society thinks that's ok, why it's cool and "equal" to justify your emotions through real and physical damage. Just say, "What if it had been a man..." "I was verbally abused so I threw bricks threw his windows and slashed his tires" First off, that is NOT ok. Women are the FIRST people to talk about *in a whining voice* "manage your feelings. Express what you feel... let your emotions out. You should be more in touch with your blah blah blah blah..." however, who's the first person to... Look I think the point has been made and there is no need to beat a dead horse. Finally, I would just like to say. I am NOT anti-feminism or anything like that, although to the Feminist-Extremist it might seem so. However I AM pro-fairness... I say if you offend the most equal and fair way to rectify your offense is in the same fashion is which you offend. You burn my house; the most equal and FAIR way to rectify that offense is to build me a new house as close to exactly what I had before. So if you have hurt feelings, there is NO reason, excuse, justification, or answer for your feelings causing physically damage. If you disagree, just think... "What if it had been a man”?




~Wondering Why~