Mar 13, 2008
What Has Been Shall Never Be...
So I’m going to start early today because I inadvertently missed my post for yesterday. Long-story-short, I feel asleep and woke up at ASS CRACK in the morning. So, today I’m knocking out two of these bad boys!
The topic for entry one of this double header is fake people. Well, let me rephrase that… Not so much “fake” as, just trying too hard. I have been talking to this person, *WAIT*
***The LAST time I said I was talking to or about somebody (W.C. & Ike) I ended up getting a TON of emails and IM’s and facebook messages inquiring about who this person was, why I shouldn’t like her or why she wasn’t right for me, blah blah blah. I just would like to be clear this time around. I’m generally a pretty literal dude. So when I say I was talking to somebody, that’s EXACTLY what I mean, talking to! Not, in the colloquial sense i.e. dating, flirting, courting, or whatever… just talking i.e. conversing, exchanging ideas, communicating. So please, lets get OUT of junior high here people and as lil jon would say “Get on my LEVEL!!!”***
Now back to our regularly scheduled blog…
So I been talking to them and it seems that they try to be something that they aren’t. Pleasant, honest, and seemingly genuine (although I’m still reserving judgment on the latter), but just not real ya know. For example, have you even spoken to someone who speaks like a little kid? I mean really, like in almost a “goo-goo ga-ga” type of tone (if that even makes sense. lol) or a man that speaks overtly like he’s 15 even though he’s obviously a grown ass man. As if they are afraid of growing up. Well, that’s the type of person I'm talking about here. How does one judge the sincerity of a person that isn’t comfortable being who they are or should I say as old as they are. Now, this person has explicitly expressed a fear of getting older, loosing their youthfulness, and not being as “excited” about life as they used to be. So, this is probably just my personal opinion however, I feel like it’s a great trade off. As you get older you do loose a bit of virility, sure, but you gain wisdom, judgment; your character really starts to develop and you just become a more secure person and the piece of mind that brings, I think, is worth losing a little youthfulness.
To be fair they are a "she," at or around the “Quarter Life” mark (a term I despise by the way)! I know that makes a difference to some. People might think “Oh, well a woman at that age should be anxious. She’s supposed to be on her way to marriage, kids, a life, or whatever…” or “Well, I mean I understand where she’s coming from. I would be anxious too, I’m not old enough to be old but not a “”Spring Chicken”” any more either.” To that I would just say what’s wrong with just having wherever you are at that point in life just be ok. I’m all about setting goals, priorities and aspiring to those things but to put so much pressure on oneself that you have to almost FAKE how old you are! I mean that leads to so many other questions. IF you are acting like this, what else are you faking because you are ashamed of it or scared of the truth of it. It’s almost like she’s acting like a teenager, acting like what they think older people act like to appear older! *I’ll give you all a second with that one………………………………………..* Lastly, and most importantly, how does one know if people like this are even acting?! That is to say, I sit here and assume that nobody can really be like that or talk like that but who’s too say. Maybe these people REALLY are just this way. The really fucked up thing is, there is no way to know or find out without being offensive.
~H. Herald~
P.S. All and all this wasn’t really a blog that left much room for questions and comments I guess. However, please feel free to post your opinions and let me know what you think about the situation, people like that, or just something random that has nothing to do with this at all. Plus, if this doesn’t move you, you got one more left for the day! Ciao!
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OKay so 1st I want to say that I do like the term "Quarter life" beCUS as I have been freaking out (about where my life is and where it is going) I have a name to put to it "Quarter life crisis" LOL
ReplyDeleteNow I guess I put the this question to you:
Which is scarier, this person is genuinely "like that" (acting immature) or they r just putting up a front?
I personally think it is more frightening if the person is genuinely "like that" At least if they are just trying to pretend to be young they can eventually figure out that there is no staying young forever. BTW I LOVE that you wrote "Spring Chicken" you know I say that ALL the time LMAO! Hopefully this realization will help them to move on and lead a successful adult life.
Unfortunately, we all know people who are "stuck" in their youthful ways. These are usually the uncle that always lives at his mothers house, the woman who can't hold down a serious relationship even when given a good man and wonders why, you get the point...
It is a wonderful thing to always remain youthful and vibrant (there are senior citizens who work out more than I do lmao) but being those things does not have to equal not maturing and gaining all the amazing things that come with getting older.
I welcome the new wisdom that will come with age and I look forward to all the new experiences that you can only truly appreciate when your mind is open to doing so.
I have to agree with Spanishharlemmonalisa and say that it would be much worse to actually be that mature, instead of just acting. Either one you may encounter is equally annoying however, if someone is just acting like the are still a teenager, that still leave hope that will one day give into the urges of adulthood that they have been fighting off. As far as being able to tell if some if just acting young, or if they actually think this way… I like the direct approach… just ask “what the fuck is wrong with you, why are you acting this way?” if their answer is they aren’t acting then you have your answer.
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